Free yourself : let go !
The past is an illusion! It’s that story that we keep telling to ourselves, the story about what happened or didn’t, that false negative voice that we identify with that, we have to admit, it’s sabotaging our happiness! Things happened of course, but that doesn’t mean that we have to be stuck there – in that sad story…
Just forget about your past, don’t let it define you! You must acknowledge this right now: that crappy old tale is just in your head and you, and only YOU, have the power to decide what to do with it – let yourself in and get involved and suffered or let it go and rewrite a new narrative and be happy.
We are more than our mental stuff. We are bigger than that, and you know, we all deserve to be deserve to be ok, happy, living our dreams, that life that we like so much and the only way to do that is by living in the NOW, away from the past and its sick negative story about who we are or what we can do or not.
A little story about carrying the past.
The inability or rather unwillingness of the human mind to let go of the past is beautifully illustrated in the story of two Zen monks, Tanzan and Ekido, who were walking along a country road that had become extremely muddy after heavy rains. Near a village, they came upon a young woman who was trying to cross the road, but the mud was so deep it would have ruined the silk kimono she was wearing. Tanzan at once picked her up and carried her to the other side.
The monks walked on in silence. Five hours later, as they were approaching the lodging temple, Ekido couldn’t restrain himself any longer. “Why did you carry that girl across the road?” he asked. “We monks are not supposed to do things like that.”
“I put the girl down hours ago,” said Tanzan. “Are you still carrying her?”
Now imagine what life would be like for someone who lived like Ekido all the time, unable or unwilling to let go internally of situations, accumulating more and more “stuff” inside, and you get a sense of what life is like for the majority of people on our planet . Eckhar Tolle
The past can be a burden!
The past lives in you as memories, but memories in themselves are not a problem. In fact, it is through memory that we learn from the past and from past mistakes. It is only when memories, that is to say, thoughts about the past, take you over completely that they turn into a burden, turn problematic, and become part of your sense of self. Your personality, which is conditioned by the past, then becomes your prison. Your memories are invested with a sense of self, and your story becomes who you perceive yourself to be. This “little me” is an illusion that obscures your true identity as timeless and formless Presence.
How to let go!
First of all – Meditate. Find your stillness, concentrate on your breath, breathe and stay in silence just for a couple of seconds. Contrary to popular belief, meditation is action. Our mind is much harder to still than our body. Our lives are busy and fast paced, filled with external noise and distractions. Clarity always comes from quiet. Meditate, even if only for a few minutes, let go of your inner stuff, stay still.
Take time to reflect upon your own history as a third party looking in without judgment: simply observe. Understand that you are not your past. Understand that the situations, the patterns and people in your life created your experiences, they didn’t create you. Knowing and understanding your past and some of your patterns will help you to recognize why you hold on to and repeat self-destructive behaviours. Understanding creates awareness; awareness helps you break the cycle and let go.
Acceptance and move on!
Accept what it is. Accept your past and the people that have been a part of your history; own your circumstances and always remember that none of these define who you are. Acceptance is the first step to letting go and setting yourself free. Remember that in the end carrying bitterness, anger or animosity burdens no one but you. Accept what was and what it is, let acceptance be your friend and from there take action, it is what it is, accept it and work with it.
Empty your cup.
Consciously and actively work at letting go of your story; your judgments, the material things, all your negative stuff. They have no real value after all. They do not make you stronger, healthier or more powerful, and believing in them is a delusion. Pour out your expectations of how, who, where and what you should be as they, too, are part of a story that holds you back from simply being. Once you let go of this story and you’re free, your life purpose will open up and flow and so you will move on.
Align with yourself. Take a moment (or several: you’re worth the time) to write down the following:
Your core beliefs/values
Your Life Goals
The actions that you are taking to pursue those goals.
Now take an honest look at your core beliefs/values and determine whether or not they align with your goals and actions. If not, ask yourself: is it time to create new core beliefs, take new action? What actions must you take to align yourself with your beliefs in order to attain your goals? Write down 3 actions that you will take this week to get yourself moving.
Letting go will make place for a new and coolest version, so stop sabotaging yourself by staying in your old pathetic negative story about why you are a loser, just let the story go, you can be better than that.
Once you figure out that you can be more, you will decide to be more. In the end I have just one more question for you : Who would you be without the story of your past ?
Just let go, let go and live the present!
A.D – we are in this together!